January 08, 2005

Survey

All right, gentlemen, here's my question to you (ladies, feel free to weigh in, too):

Do guys like it or hate it if girls make the first move?

I was interested in this guy awhile ago, and he seemed interested, too, but I never spoke up, and he never said anything either. We've been good friends for ages, and I was just too chicken to risk spoiling the friendship. The moment has totally passed, but for future reference, I'm wondering if I should have said something. Keep in mind that he's a white boy, and I have a big ghetto-fabulous bootay, which is not something white boys are traditionally attracted to. He may not have been interested, either. He just seemed to be.

So, A) do guys care if girls make the first move, and B) does it spoil the friendship if one party is interested and the other party is not?

Posted by LoWriter at January 8, 2005 11:44 AM
Comments

well, im chickenshite, so this is lost on me really. i believe that a girl can totally make the first move, and i believe that if i'm too scared to do so, then probably, some boys are too. as for ruining a friendship - i think it depends on what kind of friendship it is in the first place. b/c i think a friendship knows no bounds, but it would be a lot harder if it was a more in-depth emotional friendship than just buddy-buddy.

Posted by: Dr. Gonzo at January 10, 2005 09:08 AM

I am a firm believer in girl's not making the first move, not that this has ever traditionally worked for me. I have made the first move, more than once(... thrice), and it never worked out...

Posted by: 10lees at January 10, 2005 12:55 PM

If I boy is sitting on the fence about a girl, she instantly becomes more attractive if she tells the boy she is interested. Personally, I am usually oblivious when a girl likes me until it is too late. It is the story of my life really. It takes more than one hand to count the number of times it has happened. All of that could've been avoided if either a.) I wasn't so thick towards ladies or b.) they had just told me.

It can spoil the friendship for a time but if the friendship is worth it, it will mend itself over time.

Posted by: jeff at January 11, 2005 09:57 AM